Given the exorbitant cost of club entry, drinks and a cab across London, we thought why not try a bit of sex tourism... get out of London... it can't be any more hassle, or cost that much more...and the outside London clubs get rave reviews. So after dipping our toes into the provincial pond with a trip to Manchester's Lash, we booked tickets for the Christmas Party at Rapture, a Roissy-organised club 12 miles south of Birmingham.

Although I've been to a few fetish clubs in the past, I'd never actually been to Mass - the regular venue for TG. The venue itself is a converted church and the entrance is at the basement. We got a little confused because there was ground level entrance to another club which we mistakenly strated to queue up for!

A new true fetish / bdsm / body sex venue is being planned to open soon in the UK. Make it your kind of club / venue by giving your ideas and needs and desires to me and I will give you the supreme as enjoyed in other parts of the world. Do it now to ........ vaultan@postmaster.co.uk. .... Not to my friend who is kind enough to use his connections for us. VAULTAN

Early December I ordered a CD from the Torture Garden website's merchandise section... I had asked the DJ at Tight Laced for info on a particular track he often plays, and it turned out to be on a compilation from TG, which I figured would be a safe bet to have some other good stuff on it too!

I am writing an article for the London Fetish Scene site about the use of personal ads, how do people meet BDSM partners etc.

I am trying to find people who use fetish wear and accessories to enhance their sex-lives to take part in a new Yorkshire Television documentary series called 'Sex Over 40'.

Allen from Torture Garden wrote: Following a recent change of management and various other venue improvements, TG's Club Flesh will merge with our Cybersex events and re-launch at Cynthia's on a monthly basis from February onwards.

Well, I found the fetish fair at The Drome last month (many thanks to all those who advised me where it was - London Bridge Tube is closest). I hadn't been since the summer and so was looking forward to seeing how things were now.

Ball-gags seem to be one of those things you either love or hate. I love them. There's just something about the look of a woman with her mouth held in a nice O shape ... :-)

Ok, they call it a sleep-mask, but it's the best blindfold I've ever come across.