By LadyLinda and elliott on Tue 19 Feb 2002 at 01:56
Have you ever felt yourself getting hard or moist (as appropriate) at the sound of someone's voice? Or at the merest touch of their fingernail on the nape of the neck... you remember don't you? A little shudder, maybe a shiver... feeling warm and realising it's the heat from your own skin, flushed and pink... squirming as you realise what's happening to your body... your arousal visible to someone, anyone, who might be watching you. You tune in again to the voice and it's talking with incredible heat, a rising passion of its own... it's like listening to liquid sex... you sense the intent in that voice... you cannot escape it... it's drawing you in... you know that your vulnerabilities are about to be preyed upon... you have opened yourself up to this person and your deepest, darkest, dirtiest fantasies are about to be used, exposed, played with... and you want it... no... no.... ..... YES! YES! YES!
You open your eyes and realise you are being watched by a room full of people, who are empathising with your predicament. You squirm a bit more!
Well, i don't know about you but writing that made me feel a little warm. And i really didn't try very hard to write that introduction. i was remembering back just a few hours ago to how it felt to be aurally seduced by Fetish Diva Midori and just let the memory of her voice guide my writing.
Backing up a minute i should explain that my Mistress and i have recently had the privilege of spending a day in the company of Fetish Diva Midori who is currently on whistle stop tour of the UK. We were fortunate to be able to attend her workshops on Aural Sex and Rope Bondage. The day didn't actually start too well, we were tired after attending a private play party the night before and we both had the making of what we are hoping are just bad colds and although neither of us said it at the time we were both thinking that maybe it would be wiser to spend the day in bed dosed up with medication. i'm very glad that we didn't voice those thoughts until later on in the day!
i'm not really sure what i was expecting from the day. Having recently bought Midori's book - The Seductive Art of Japanese Bondage - the principle reason for attending was to continue down a path my Mistress and I have been playing with for only a short time - that of intricate and sensual rope bondage. Neither of us has much experience with bondage and we tend to spend most of our play time more in the D/s and sensation arenas. i was aware that part of the day was advertised as something to do with aural sex and my thoughts had been along the lines of "that might be interesting".
The other thing that i was intrigued about was what it would be like to meet someone considered by some to be a leading light in the international community of BDSM. Would she be someone suffering from some kind of Domme toxaemia. Would she portray an image that left one feeling that when she went to the loo all you could smell would be rose petals.
Well, great myth number six hundred and fifty-one uncovered. Fetish Diva Midori is as down to earth as it gets. A part of me likes to secretly think its because she was once what she describes in her own words as a "pig bottom". She's been where you and i have been and she knows. We could therefore all (Tops, Doms, bottoms and submissives) share a conspiratorial smile with her. My mistress ran into Midori in the ladies loo before the day even began and returned to tell me that she was "one nice Lady" and that the day was going to be a good one.
i managed to exchange a few pleasantries with Midori as we waited for everyone to arrive so that the workshops could get underway and we learned that Her flight had been delayed for ten hours. For someone who had therefore had little sleep, and was probably jetlagged to hell and back, the first thought that struck me was she was in remarkably good humour. She was poured into a green latex outfit, so she looked pretty good too.
Introductions aside, the workshop got underway with a little of what i would call guided meditation. Just closing our eyes and letting Midori's voice wash over us, letting the tensions of the week go and getting ready to get the day's business underway. And what a way to be spending the day!
She asked a little bit about what we, her audience, were expecting of from the day and pointed out the participative nature of her workshops. Its not everyone's style but one thing about workshops - behaving like a wallflower just isn't like me at all and I remember saying to her - "the more you put in the more you get out". Maybe that's why i ended up a little later sat in a chair at the front of the class with Midori whispering in my ear. i know.... i know... it's a tough life but someone's gotta suffer.
Fetish Diva Midori's aural sex workshop was a real joy. She covered some really basic communication issues and how often do we hear the cry "communicate, communicate and communicate some more" in our community. And as much as you remember the mantra of communication Midori reminds us to think about how we say things and what things we say. She helped me to connect things i've learned on vanilla business courses in communication with other parts of my life.
i don't remember Midori making the specific point but so much of our communication is non-verbal and not the least bit about content. Its about tone, rhythm, pace, texture and body language and Midori covered each of these in turn. A few one-liners that stand out for me in what she said... "arouse your partner by talking at the pace of sex", "passion is contagious and if your voice is dripping passion think about what that is doing to your partner". Midori illustrated one of her many points by reading from a copy of the Big Issue. i've never seen people sexually aroused by the topic of greenhouse gases before. Of course the point being that the content had nothing to do with it, it was read to us as though it was the hottest piece of erotica ever written.
Sometimes i could kick myself for all the things that i do know but i don't remember to do that often. How many of us remember that a simple phonecall can set the scene for a night of passionate and sexy BDSM. Probably most of us, but how often do you do it? And it's not a Domly perogative. i phone my Mistress pretty regularly at work but it's easy to get complacent or distracted by stressful or even mundane events and forget to drop an octave in your voice and say something creatively sexy. To begin a seduction hours before you are in the same space as the one you care about. And remember it can make a scene last the whole day!
And i haven't even mentioned 'trigger words' yet. i think Midori probably called them hot buttons, but trigger words is how i always remember them. When Midori whispered in my ear, almost every phrase contained the word 'tight', as in tight dress, tight pants, tight space, tight ropes, being tied up tight... and I don't need to explain what she suggested she might do with hot chocolate sauce, do i? Suffice to say i was visibly squirming by the end of her demonstration. All through the day she punched her point home... just a look from her and a sentence punctuated by the word 'tight' and i was there again... blushing and squirming.
i have to say that the use of trigger words isn't a new experience for me. When i first met my Mistress, now my wife, we had the small matter of the Atlantic Ocean to contend with. The phone was one of our primary means of communication and interaction. And i still have trigger words from that period of time that can arouse me and also the words that permit me to cum. Midori's illustration was a powerful reminder for me of those times.
Midori finished the aural sex workshop with some thoughts on sources for the what to say. The web of course is a great resource, as are the other ideas on her list, but tapping into each others fantasies i think will remain for me the primary source of content. A little creativity can then take you a long, long way.
On to the afternoon and the Japanese rope bondage seminar. Midori talked a little about the history of bondage, covered the safety aspects, talked about the rope itself and then demonstrated an upper body harness. My abiding memory of that will be how quick she was... and how with a tug here and a pull there she emphasised her dominance and raised a gasp from her subject. And suddenly I was right there again... squirming in sympathy (and jealousy). Some well placed crotch knots had Midori's subject flushed red for all the right reasons.
Everyone paired off to follow Midori through an upper body harness, and I spent about 20 minutes being 'tightly' roped by my Mistress. Some single post bondage followed the tea break and then using the techniques illustrated, supported by some timely bits of advice from Midori, the groups did some free form bondage. By this stage Mistress and I were flagging a bit so we sat and watched the wonderful creativity that filled the room.
A final Q&A session and the day drew to a close. And what a wonderful day. A memory to tuck away and treasure. Midori signed our copy of her book... and as we said our goodbyes and left the room Midori smiled and her parting words.... "elliott... have a nice tight evening" ... rang in my ears as we left.
Hugzzzzzzzzzzzzz
elliott
owned and loved by LadyLinda
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