I didn't expect to see the people who spoiled the event (from my point of view) commenting here - It's nice to see you give your reasons for what happened on Friday...
> i put on some unusual trousers
If you were wearing 'unusual' trousers, then you can't be the guys I was talking about, they were all wearing jeans as far as I could tell. I imagine that more than one group of people were asked to leave the downstairs part of the venue that evening as there were at least two dozen people in serious violation of the dress code, mostly in the vicinity of the bar.
On the other hand, maybe my eyesight is going, or your definition of unusual isn't quite the same as mine (possible, I do go to a lot of fetish clubs after all, unusual take some doing at some of them!). If you are the guys I mention in the review, then here are some thoughts for you...
If you were invited down by the management and not informed of the dress code for the event, then the management were lax in the way they dealt with the event - the dress code is a very important part of a fetish event, practically definitive, so not telling you that it was a strict dress code was very short sighted on their part and not particularly friendly behaviour to either the promoter or you and your friend (given that your lack of proper clothing made you immediately stand out in a bad way). I would say that is inconsiderate on their part.
> i know everyone that was down on the friday night of absolution
You obviously didn't know "everyone" that was at the event, as I don't know you, nor did any of the people there who I knew and spoke to about you (which includes most if not all of the event staff, and about a dozen of the customers). You may well know all of the venue staff, but that's not quite "everyone" at the event. Anyway, it doesn't matter who you know, you will still make a lot of people attending a fetish event uncomfortable if you turn up in street-clothes - they are there to experiment with alternative clothing and behaviour, and your presence as a 'normally' dressed observer tends to make people feel like circus acts which will restrict their enjoyment of their experimentation, if not putting them off totally.
> I don't believe this silly little incedent will affect the night in any way in the future
If you don't think your attendance and behaviour will have affected the next event, then re-read the second from last paragraph of the review - my girlfriend won't go to an event at a venue that doesn't enforce the dress code. I doubt that I will either. That's two regular customers lost already. As I said in my review, it would be interesting to know how many more are going to either stay clear, or put this venue 'on probation' in future. It's nice that you won't attend in street-clothes again, but to a large extent the damage is already done.
> if u invite a friend to one of your promotions [ ... ]
If I invited someone to a party and they got thrown out, I would be embarassed and leave with them, not try to get them let back in to cause more trouble. As I don't have any special influence in any of the venues I visit, I doubt I would be able to get someone let back in after they had been asked to leave anyway.
> a reason that seems just to be a little miss judge of character
The guys I saw get thrown out had to be escorted out by security because they were telling the event promoter to his face that they refused to comply with the dress code. That's more than slightly unreasonable behaviour in any venue I would of thought.
Later on, after being let back in, they were groping women that they didn't know (as they walked past and she was hugging her partner, she thought it was her partner grabbing her arse, not a stranger), they were drunkenly fighting over who should get the best view of the play area to the point where they tore the curtain down, and they were ridiculing the people in the play area to the point where eventually everyone left it and found other places to play.
If there were no more complaints, then I would imagine it was because everyone had given up, not because no-one minded their behaviour.
> Frank (The Owner) had no idea what so ever that any of this was happening
I had heard that the 'request' to let dress-code violators back in came directly from him. If that's not true, then I apologise to him.
Thanks again for your comments. If you are the people I mentioned in the review, then I'd recommend you drink less and think more at the next fetish event you attend... otherwise, I can only hope I'm not there.
Regards,
Denny | 
